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  Excited, surprised and thrilled

  by Lady Lee in

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  yesterday i was at the book store and picked up a book titled recovering from sexual abuse, addictions, and compulsive behaviors.

  i thought it would be great for my job.

  i was sitting in the tub earlier reading the preface, acknowledgemetns and introduction (yes i read those).

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  Lady Lee

  thank you thank you

  Joy no appointments required but you might have to pull me back down to earth
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  Awake magazine left in my door

  by mrs rocky2 in

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  i found an awake!

  magazine tucked in my door when i came home from work last night.

  i guess weve been away from the kh long enough for only a handful of them to know where we live.

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  Lady Lee

  one less magazine for some unsuspecting person === one less potential victim
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  Shunning? What About The Children??

  by Tish in

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  hi to eveyone,.

  i was d'fd 18 months ago, i was prepared for the shunning within my family and the borg of all my friends (as i never associated with "worldly people") but i have been totally blown away with how nobody cares about my 2 young children!!.

  my kids have not heard from their aunties and uncle since i was thrown out in feb '01.

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  Lady Lee

  Tish first - Nice to meet you

  And boy do I hear you. They did the same to my kids when I was DFed. The girls were even living with their father but they were "marked" as bad association because of me. It caused both of them to leave - which in the end was a good thing. But it was a pain I wished they hadn't gone through. My girls were 8 and 12 and old enough to recognize what was happening and why

  Take care of yourselves and the little ones and welcome here
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  Excited, surprised and thrilled

  by Lady Lee in

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  2. friends

  yesterday i was at the book store and picked up a book titled recovering from sexual abuse, addictions, and compulsive behaviors.

  i thought it would be great for my job.

  i was sitting in the tub earlier reading the preface, acknowledgemetns and introduction (yes i read those).

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  Lady Lee

  Scully I am just tickled about it - tried to call my boss (we were together when I bought the book and we were debating who gets to read it first) but she isn't home
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  Excited, surprised and thrilled

  by Lady Lee in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  yesterday i was at the book store and picked up a book titled recovering from sexual abuse, addictions, and compulsive behaviors.

  i thought it would be great for my job.

  i was sitting in the tub earlier reading the preface, acknowledgemetns and introduction (yes i read those).

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  Lady Lee

  Yesterday I was at the book store and picked up a book titled Recovering from sexual abuse, addictions, and compulsive behaviors. I thought it would be great for my job. I was sitting in the tub earlier reading the Preface, Acknowledgemetns and Introduction (yes I read those). The second paragraph of the Introduction states

  I had just distributed an article titled "Traumatic Child Sexual Abuse, Psychological Death, and the Reduction of the Belief in the Power of God,"

  hey wait a minute - that sounds familiar ,,, continue reading

  written by Lee Hardiman (http://lee_hardiman.tripod.com/trauma-god.html).

  oh my gawd I can't believe it!!!!!! A year or so ago the author Sandra Knauer emailed me after reading my article on my website. She wanted to use the article in her book. I gave her permission to use the article. She wrote me to let me know that the book had been published in the US but I didn't think I would see it here in Canada.

  Well when I saw the book I didn't remember the request for publication but there it is. She talks about how she used the article in her groups with sexual abuse victims and their reactions to it.

  What an amazing feeling to see your name and work quoted and discussed in a published book

  AWESOME

  Edited by - Lady Lee on 14 September 2002 20:59:8
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  About posting your picture be careful!

  by spectromize in

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  simon i'm sorry i don't mean to rain on your parade but you have to remember the society and your local elders watch for stuff like that.

  this is a very liberal board as far as discussions go and forever thankful for that, but you have to be careful because you could face a jd meeting.

  i'm sure everyone is well aware that some posts on this board just wouldn't go over to well with the society.

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  A few years ago I made the decision to give up my fear of the elders coming after me. Like what are they going to do? Disfellowship me - sorry too late already done that.

  I just plain refuse to live in fear of this disgusting borg mentality or a bunch of uneducated window washers - life ain't worth it
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  only negativity is permitted up in this place

  by comforter in

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  comfy just gotta come out retarment too protest the tone of this place.

  anytime somebody call people to account for telling abuse stories that may be false, this place want to kick them off.

  but it ok to tell false abuse stories, so long as it make wt look bad.

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  Lady Lee

  and on that note I think I will be ill
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  In Memory of a diff.kind of Silentlamb -Pics

  by LyinEyes in

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  most of you know about my mother, she passed away from this world 17 yrs ago tomorrow, sept. 15, 1985. her passing was very hard on my sister and me , because it was a suicide.

  she had been a witness for 16 years and even almost died standing up for the blood issue in 1983, due to a stomach ulcer, and too many asprins.

  her blood count went down to 2 and she had to be put in a lear jet to get to houston, tx.

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  Lady Lee

  ((((LE))))

  The grief of losing a parent in this way must be unbelievable. I cannot imagine how you feel.

  However I do understand the pain you must feel and anger at men who thought casting her out was loving discipline. How sad for your mother that she didn't get the help she so badly needed.
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  Do some people love trauma and tragedy?

  by kenpodragon in

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  i have never considered myself to be full of a bunch of trauma and tragedy.

  at least when i compare it to some.. have you ever known the type of people though, that always have something new happening that is traumatic.

  you know the type, if it isn't a sick child it is a argument.

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  Lady Lee

  Possible triggers

  The symptom of addiction to chaos is also a long term effect of any one raised in a highly dysfunctional traumatic home.

  When all a child knows is trauma some learn very well how to deal with it. In fact some will not feel alive unless there is something going on.

  The cycle of abuse plays into this scenario. In most families where there is a lot of abuse there is a well documented cycle that the family/victim goes through. Things may seem really calm and peacefiul for a while. But slowly the abuser gets stressed out raising the level of stress in the home. Then there is the explosion or abuse (could be physical emotional or sexual). After the explosion there is the "honeymoon" phase where peace returns to the situation. After going through the cycle countless times most victims begin to anticipate the explosions often referred to as "walking on eggshells". If this period goes on too long the stress becomes unbearable and many victims learn to trigger the explosion so they can relieve the tension and attain the peaceful state again.

  With therapy a victim can learn how he or she plays into the cycle as a defense mechanism and can choose to leave the abuser and learn new ways to deal with stress. Just leaving the abuser is not enough because life has its own stresses. New coping strategies must replace the cycle that the person has learned.

  Long term abuse teaches these people that good things never last. And because it nevber lasts they have no skills to deal with long term peace and calm. The turmoil in their lives is like an addiction. They have no idea how to function without it. Some people are able to channel it into high stress jobs like paramedics or air traffic controllers. Others just bounce from one trauma to the next.

  Understanding how this works for some people is essential to getting them help.

  Whether the cause is BPD or PTSD or NPD it requires diagnosis and treatment
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  only negativity is permitted up in this place

  by comforter in

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  comfy just gotta come out retarment too protest the tone of this place.

  anytime somebody call people to account for telling abuse stories that may be false, this place want to kick them off.

  but it ok to tell false abuse stories, so long as it make wt look bad.

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  Lady Lee

  now not so comfy

  really Vicki is saying the same thing that most of went through - that is why I believe what I have read so far

  The elders didn't know what they were doing just like the elders in my case didn't know what they were doing and a thousand other elders in hundreds of other cases - go read the silent lambs website.

  Ok I promised not to feed the trolls but for goodness sake go do some reading on abuse issues and the long term effects instead of spouting this crap.

  You are reverting to the dark ages where people always thought the victim lies. No person in their right mind would go through a court case like this and have their story hold up and themselves if it hadn't happened

  and hey wake up

  HE ADMITTED IT!!!!

  so what's your problem?